This group (and the intake for it) was my first major interaction with the Crisses, and I came away very honored for having been part of the experience. This group was an incredibly engaging place where we felt safety for many members of our system to come out and express ourselves, as well as learn from both the wisdom of others and the experience of a very mature, mentorship-focused system. The Crisses did an incredible job advocating for everyone internal to the system, and going way far above and beyond the call of duty to actually invest in everyone and keep up with how they're doing. As a system, they are incredibly generous and kind, and set a strong example for how to safely engage with a crazy, topsy-turvy world from a place of healthy functional plurality .(much more, follow link…)
I can't recommend these programs enough. This is one of those experiences that is very hard to describe, and I have nothing but positive things to say about it. Many of the critical ideas presented here are absent in one form or another from modern mainstream therapeutic literature, and that's to the detriment of that side of the field. It is certainly no wonder that recovery from complex trauma and structural dissociation is still very difficult within the modern therapeutic landscape -- the generally available tools are quite lacking. The concepts that the Crisses presented were not only easy to understand, but immediately effective, broadly applicable, and more directly accomplished what a lot of therapy/self-help materials only indirectly accomplished over a longer timespan. I did not find these concepts pseudoscientific in the least, and when concepts have been derived from multicultural spiritual traditions, they are presented in an inclusive manner which allows for one to take the essence of the idea without necessarily committing to that particular spiritual modality. Time and time again, the Crisses hit the mark on finding empirically effective methods, have a broad and well-integrated understanding of both the theories and history of the surrounding psychology, and also have well-connected the plurality of therapeutic modalities deriving from said theories.
I was a part of one of the trial groups, which was offered for free, and I've personally found I've gotten so much value and personal respect for the Crisses that I'll be going back and paying for it as if it was a "real" non-trial group session. In terms of group belonging, safety, and attachment, I found myself very much missing the group as we headed into the last two weeks. I simply didn't want it to end. This experience is worth every bit of what you put into it, and I'd reach out to the Crisses to start a conversation even if a group session and/or personal coaching is outside of your financial avenues. I firmly believe that everyone on the plurality spectrum would benefit from going through these groups, multiple times, to learn all of the layered lessons that lay the foundation for an incredibly healthy system. I now have the tools I need, far more than before, to really start making a healthy impact in my own life. Additionally, it's helped me provide support in my personal relationships and interactions with other systems as well.
Put simply -- you won't regret it.
-- Anonymous Four, Building Trust group alum
These sessions really work. They help so much and give so much clarity to inside situations. They are definitely worth it! The Crisses are kind, caring, lovely and sweet, they are consistently friendly and supportive throughout the whole thing; application, during the sessions, in between the sessions and even now after the sessions are over. I literally cant give them enough praise!
--The Headspace System
The Building Trust program helped us communicate better. We were able to make contact for the first time with some headmates that seemed scary before. We have more understanding of how to respond to violations of trust among us and what to do to repair that trust. We also have more understanding and compassion for ourselves. It was a relief to be speaking with Crisses as they have built the program from their firsthand, decades of experience and knowledge. The other participants were also very open about what they are dealing with in their systems. The Building Trust series was a safe space that we looked forward to each week. We are very grateful for the experience and would recommend Building Trust to anymanys who are struggling with trust issues among headmates.
--The Headspace System, exit survey
Left feeling more relieved that before it started. Sometimes you only need to feel listened to. I got that and more in this session.
I learnt a great deal about my internal world not only what it is right now but what i want it to be for the safety and comfort of my all parts, myself included.
-- Kevin & co.
The group coaching program provided by the Crisses was very helpful to me and our collective, for the knowledge it brought us as well as the validation for knowledge we already had. Having a chance to discuss focused topics with other systems/collectives empowered us to take steps towards a better life (inner and outer) for all of us, that we struggled to do without it. I appreciated the group being open to all types of plurality which enabled me to relax and be open to exploring solutions outside of established norms.
-- Lily& of KingdomBalance
Criss helps clients get real and focused. She holds her client accountable until tasks are completed. She gently but firmly asks tough questions that help you to gain clarity around your physical and emotional spheres.
CRISS ensured a safe and supportive environment for folks like me who are completely new to the issues and experiences of DID to explore different skills, issues, challenges, and coping mechanisms. I truly appreciated the time, attention, and care with which CRISS set up their workshops from the material, to the software, to the reading homework, to the in workshop facilitation. CRISS is truly gifted at what they do.
Whichever piece of reality I am chewing on (work crises now; long ago hurts and griefs; future fears and hopes), Criss is right there for me.
-- Anonymous One
I think your (stress management) workshop was deceptively good........I mean, its value is only partially obvious up front, but upon contemplation it takes on more and more inspirational value.
--Pat Weinert, Weinert T-Shirts, Middletown, NY
In the realm of Life Coaching, Criss is emerging as a master coach: she is a careful and thoughtful listener, a creative and innovative collaborator, and an open-hearted mentor in a process of self-discovery, self-development, and self-creation. She has been for me the epitome of the expression "the student has become the teacher".
--Sheila Pearl, MSW, Life Coach and Coaching Instructor
, Newburgh, NY
A lot of providers have a model for what "multiple" is supposed to look like -- a bunch of "people" with, like, ages and genders and "people issues". We're not like that: we're a huge cooperation of loops of distinct, individual self-awareness -- "I am me" loops. [newline] We range from being tiny to quite substantial and able to cope with adult life. Many of us have really peculiar identities: holes burned in the fabric of being; plankton (we like eating); the marble torso of an ancient hero who shows his pain by how broken and frozen he is; wisps of floating mutable colors and scraps of beingness who is whoever you would like her to be; three/nine of us (the numbers shift) who are how we turn challenges upside down to see them differently to get at wildly different approaches to those challenges; one of us who is simply the skill of writing, be it long hand or computer writing; many of us who are collectively a software and process engineering group; others of us who are so bitterly sad that all we can bear to do is sleep; that's just part of the list, and Criss takes us all in stride. Previous providers have had a lot of trouble with comprehending even as "personlike" an inside one as our marble hero, never mind the enormous school of fish who in difficult emotional circumstances become a basementful of pebbles and sand.
-- Anonymous Three
we really like Criss: she totally gets it, how being many is like and we get to say "we" to her and she doesn't get all weird about it.
-- Anonymous Two